Which Hat Style Is Best for You?

Do you wear hats?  Do you want to wear hats but you just can’t figure out which styles are best for you?

Lady Kitty Spencer – elegant sophisticated.

I think hats are one of things that mystify my clients the most.

Hats can be bold, fun, exotic, whimsical, elegant, feminine, sporty or edgy. One thing that’s for sure they are expressive and they demand attention.  Take the recent royal wedding for example, the hat’s almost got as much attention as the royal couple.

Hats, like everything else, can be easy to wear if you know your personal brand and your personal style rules.

When you shop for hats, try considering my six S’s: Style, Shape, Scale, Season, Situation and Shade.

Oprah Winfrey – Dramatic

Personal Style—Do you have a personal brand?  A true understanding of who you are?  I recommend that you always consider your personal style when assessing the items in your wardrobe. If you haven’t been exposed to this concept, check out my Style Quiz and see what you learn about yourself.  Once you know your personal brand you will want to choose the hat style that best communicates that brand.

Face Shape—Knowing your face shape will help you determine the best shape of hat or fascinator for you.  If you aren’t sure of your face shape check out this blog.

Scale—It’s obvious once you think about it.  You want to match your natural size and scale:

  • If your face is small, you will be swamped in a big hat so don’t overpower it with a wide brim. 
  • If your face is larger, look for styles with more width.
  • If you are tall you can carry off large-brimmed hats but avoid high crowns – they will only make you look taller.
  • If you are petite you should wear small-brimmed hats with a high crown

Season—I’m sure you have a handle on this one – be mindful that your fabric choice matches the weather and season.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Situation- Clearly, you wouldn’t wear the same hat to a ball game, the beach, the royal wedding or a hot date.

Shade – Always consider your color palette when wearing clothes and accessories near your face.  What shades of colors are most harmonious with your skin hair and eyes?  Most of us are either warm or cool.  Warm shades have yellow undertones and cool shades have pink and blue undertones. I now have a color app for my clients.  We can do your color analysis digitally!  All we need is a headshot.  Check it out here.

Having a closet full of clothes that you love, show you at your best and communicate who you are is very powerful. Wearing hats is fun year round but it can be very intimidating. Stick to these rules and you will stand out from the crowd with style and confidence.

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How to have a beautiful summer tan without a minute in the sun!

Remember when you were a kid in the summertime, how your skin seemed to retain a deep glow, your hair would achieve the kind of highlights we pay a fortune for now, and you had no concept of long term anything? Of course, we didn’t know the true effects of long term sun exposure on the skin either.

Did you know, use of sunblock lotion didn’t become widespread until the 1970s.

In actuality, a tan is a sign of skin damage. Skin tans in response to sun damage to your skin. Skin tanning is a sign your skin cells and the structures of your skin have been damaged, even if redness or peeling were never present.

But we love how a tan look, don’t we!  The market has responded.  We can have this fabulous look without the cost of our health? According to WebMD, Dermatologists now steer their patients toward sunless tanning products if they want more color on their skin. “It’s certainly much better than going out or going to a tanning salon and getting exposed to UV light,” says dermatologist Robin Ashinoff, MD, of Hackensack University Medical Center in New Jersey.

My research on the best sunless tanners led me to my next question – are tanned people perceived as more attractive? According to this article by Psychology Today, tanned individuals were perceived as more attractive than their untanned counterparts. However, when a tan or fake tan was more orange in color, the individuals would be perceived as more unattractive. So, here’s our list of which products are vetted to give you the perfect glow without making you orange:

  • Arbonne Liquid Sunshine Tinted Self-Tanner, $46, one of my clients, Dianna Baltimore, swears by this one. Not only does it give you a natural-looking tan within 2 hours, but it’s also made with natural ingredients that nurture and moisturize your skin. Buy it through Dianna here.

  • According to one of our Success thru Style Affiliates, Shelley Roberts, MAC’s Studio Face and Body Foundation, $39, is a great product if you need something that will multitask without rubbing off. It doesn’t, however, stain your skin so the glow is temporary. It’s also great at concealing imperfections and bronzing at the same time. Buy it here.

  • Avoid skin-harming UV rays and get a safe glow at the same time with this two-in-one formula that includes a progressive bronzing formula as well as a dose of broad-spectrum sun protection. Supergoop! Healthy Glow Sunless Tan SPF40, $38. Buy it here.

  • According to another of our Success thru Style Affiliates, Kristina Pernfors, this Subtle Tanning Lotion by Mary Kay, $18, is amazing. When used daily, you can build up a gorgeous color in about a week – and it has a lovely coconut/honeysuckle fragrance. Buy it through Kristina here.

  • Bondi Sands’ Liquid Glow, $24, a shimmering, un-sticky dry oil that you can buy at Target.

  • Josie Maran, $38, a quick-absorbing, super hydrating self-tanning body oil infused with 100 percent pure argan oil, coconut water, and aloe. Buy it here.

  • NKD SKN Pre-Shower Gradual Tan Lotion, $20, for the impatient types (and those who just can’t stand that self-tanner smell), this is a pre-shower formula. Just apply, wait ten minutes, and shower away the cream – the color develops gradually, so it’s an easy option for maintaining your shade. Buy it here.

  • Tan-Luxe The Body Illuminating Self-Tan Drops, $59, have you ever customized your shampoo or skincare? Now you can do it with your sunless tanner. This version allows you to add drops of the brand’s self-tanning formula into any moisturizer, dialing in your perfect level of tan. Buy it here.

  • Need packable self-tanning towelettes to keep your vacation tan from fading? Try the super portable Tan Towel Self-Tan Towelettes, $29, for face and body. Buy it here.

 

If you have to be in the sun – use sunscreen! If you don’t have the time to sun worship but want to look like you do, maybe give one of these sunless tanners a try. Self-tanners are finicky beasts that require a bit of patience, some trial and error, and, most importantly, a really good formula. That’s why we did the work for you. Share your results or add to the list by posting in the Success thru Style Facebook group. Happy tanning!

GETSPECS: Sunglasses

It’s summertime, do you love your shades?  Do they communicate who you are?  Do you feel like a million bucks when you put them on?

If not, you should and you can!

Honestly, It’s tough.  So many of my clients struggle with eyewear; whether it’s shades, readers or prescription glasses.

So let’s dig in and learn how to weed through the options and make the best choice for you!

I invented an acronym which I think will help:  GETSPECS:

 

Go Up

We need to fight gravity as we age.  So your #1 rule is look for glasses with something in the outer-upper corners that creates lift.  Cat eye’s are currently on trend if you love them that’s a great solution or you can look for chunky plastic frames with a wider corners on top.  You can also look for glasses with embellishments.  Anything that adds lift is great.

 

Equal Distant

Your PD or Pupil Distance is an important measurement.  Not only is this important technically but it also looks best when your eyes are centers in the lens.  Maybe you know whether you have wide or narrow eyes.  To find out, measure your eye width.  Could you place a third eye over the bridge of your nose?  If so your eyes are neither wide nor narrow.  If you have wider eyes you should buy wider frames.  If your eyes are narrow then narrow frames are right for you.

Stores like Warby Parker have their inventory laid out in this manner to help you avoid this mistake.

 

Temples

The temples of eyewear should not touch your face, but there should not be more than a finger’s width between the temple and your face.

 

Shape

This is a big one and often the main thing people talk about when determining what eyewear is right for each individual.  The concept is the shape of the frames should mimic your face shape.  It is a basic rule in art called repeating patterns or relatedness.  Our subconscious mind looks for things it sees.  If you have blue eyes and wear the color blue, for example, it will bring attention to your eyes.  If you have a circular pendent on and also wore polka dots, this will feel harmonious to the viewer.  And if you have a square shaped face angular glasses will feel congruent.  So the basic idea is oval shaped face – oval shaped glasses, circular shaped face – circular glasses, etc.

 

 

Personal Brand

If you know me at all you know I always start by helping my clients discover their personal brand.  How you look, your clothes, accessories and your eyewear communicate who you are.  How you look is your most powerful communication tool.  Pick eyewear that fits with that:

 

The best pair of glasses can elevate an outfit or send the wrong message if you don’t know what your brand is.  Do you want something that is edgy, sophisticated, modern, or feminine?  The extreme cat eyes are trendy right now. They can be nostalgic and classic on some but forward-thinking on others.  Both of these women are wearing extreme cat eyes which appear to fit their personal brand:

    

Eyebrows

Make sure your frame mimics your eyebrow shape or covers them all together.  This is one thing that is often overlooked.

 

Color

Your frames should complement your complexion: Warm skin and hair = warm frames.  Cool skin and hair = cool frames.  Just follow the rules of the color wheel.  Is your hair honey blonde or brown? Does your skin have yellow undertones?  Then you are warm.  If you have gray hair, ash blonde hair, black hair and pink undertones.  You are cool.

Scale

Keep your scale in mind.  If you are small you will not want to overwhelm your face with large-scale sunglasses and if you are larger you should indeed consider a statement pair that is right for your stature. Even if big is in, there is big and there is too big.

 

 

Accessorizing with glasses all year is a fun way to express yourself, especially with your shades in the summer months.

Have fun with it and use GETSPECS to make good decisions so you show up feeling your personal best all day every day.

Video Tips: Wear This not That

If you are a speaker or someone doing video to promote your brand or business, no doubt, you have fabulous content to share!  Video is compelling and a great way to communicate your brand and your story.  But it is time consuming, it can be expensive and there’s a lot to consider.

One thing that can be overlooked – how you look.  Take the time, even in a Facebook Live to consider your hair, makeup, and wardrobe before stepping in front of the camera. It can be SO easy to ruin a video by unknowingly wearing the wrong things. Take it from me, I am an expert on what to wear, but not without committing some faux pas along the way!  In this blog I will share a few of them so you can avoid making the same mistakes I did.  Here are 10 things you need to know to show up at your best for video:

#1 Wear your ‘wow colors” near your face

The colors near your face will either drain you of life or highlight your best features.  There’s a palette of colors that look best on each of us and especially great on video.  Some colors to consider: Your best red, green, and blue are usually great choices depending on the background. 

#2 Stay clear of black and white

There are lots of reasons not to wear black and white.  For one thing they make it hard for the camera to create an accurate exposure.  This can be handled in post processing… But why take the gamble? 

Also, white will commonly wash you out, while black is harsh and runs the risk of bringing attention to any circles or crevices. Yikes.  Even navy runs this risk (exhibit A on the right there).  I recommend bright crisp colors instead of dark ones.

#3 Be business brand free

This one is relatively self-explanatory: be sure to avoid wearing shirts that have visible logos, brand names, or loud text.  These can be distracting for the viewer, so keep it brand-free!

#4 Show off your personal brand

As always, be true to who you are and what you want to communicate.  Dress in a way that is consistent with how you look when your clients meet you in person.

 

 

#5 Wear solid colors and avoid patterns

Even subtle patterns can be a problem.  They can be distracting and pull the viewers eyes away from you and they often create the moiré effect

(when lines on the screen look like the are moving).

 

<—Quel moiré faux pas ! (French for “what a moiré faux pas!”) 🙂

 

 

#6 Consider comfort a priority

Make sure you can move easily and freely, wearing lightweight garments that don’t make you sweat.

#7 Say yes to makeup but don’t over do it

The lights can wash you out but unless your personal brand is ‘glamorous’ you still don’t want to over do it.  You’re not an actor on stage in front of an audience–today’s high definition cameras pick up everything (in fact, be sure to wear powder so you aren’t shiny, otherwise, you might end up reflecting the lights).

#8 Jewelry should be quiet

Big earrings and statement necklaces are great but if they move and jingle you don’t want them on the set.

#9 Avoid trends

Your video may be around for some time to come.  Don’t date it with trendy clothes or styles.

 

 

#10 Don’t wear glasses unless the videographer confirms there are no shadows

Unless you are in a very controlled environment, don’t wear glasses.  They cast shadows that can’t be avoided and can ruin how you look and distract from your message.

 

See how my red glasses cast a frightening shadow around my eyes?

 

 

 

 

Finally, do yourself a favor and always do a final bathroom double take.  I recently traveled to L.A. for a conference and paid a nice sum to be video taped.  I didn’t go on stage until midday.  I looked in the mirror in the bathroom but there wasn’t a full length mirror so I only saw myself from the neck up.  The videographer didn’t mention there was a big wrinkle across my tummy and a few others in my skirt.  Geez.  I know better. I’m an Image consultant… This will clearly be video I will never use.

So be sure to look in a full length mirror and check out your backside while you are at it.

 

Isn’t this better?  

 

 

 

I had great success in all of these events even though the video wasn’t 100% what I wanted.  So if you wear the wrong thing, don’t beat yourself up.  It clearly happens to the best of us.  But I share this so you can indeed learn from my mistakes and first hand knowledge.  It makes a difference what we wear.  And video has it’s own set of rules.  Follow these easy tips so you know you will look amazing on video and can focus on all that compelling content you have to share with the world.

Under Where?! What to wear under your clothes.

Once a month I take my clients shopping.  This month it is shape wear and hosiery and today is the day.  I am a big fan of online shopping, but this one is an exception. 

Until you know exactly what you need and want, undergarments are best purchased in person. 

I am going to have my clients start with a proper bra fitting.  According to the Huffington Post, 80% of women are wearing ill fitting bras. There are many places you can go to get a bra fitting, there are small boutiques that specialize in intimate apparel, larger chains such as SOMA and Victoria Secret and most major department stores have certified bra stylists who can help you make sure you are in the right size. 

If you want to do it online I recommend Third Love, for they have a great questionnaire that helps you self measure and also determine the right style based on the shape of your girls.

Bras don’t last forever.  They stretch out which is one reason they come with a clasp that has multiple rungs.  Start with your bra on the widest position and tighten over time.  Consider replacing them every six months so they always fit as intended.

Next up is panties.  I can’t tell you how often I have a conversation with my clients about their underpants:)  Panty lines can ruin your image in a nanosecond.  And really ladies you have to look at yourselves.  I am amazed at how many women don’t have a full length mirror and hand mirror to check their backside. You may not want to bother with how you look from the neck down or backside but others are looking and noticing.  It’s an easy mistake to make.  Not too long ago I put on white lined pants with pink undies.  If I hadn’t looked in the mirror I may have spent my entire day showcasing those pretty pink underwear, for the pants were much more translucent than I realized.  I changed several times and it wasn’t until I put on knee length Spanx that I found the right solution for those pants.

The right underwear really matters when it comes to pants.  I recommend thongs for most occasions. Many brands also make seamless panties if you don’t like the feel of a thong. No matter what you decide, you have to try things on and look in the mirror, both the front of you and behind.

What about shape wear? What we wear under our clothes can make all the difference especially if we are not happy with some bulges here and there. You probably think of Spanx in this regard, but the truth is humans have been using garments to reshape their bodies since the beginning of time; think rudimentary corsets and girdles.  Those of use that complain about Spanx and pantyhose have no idea what women endured for centuries before us.

So what shape wear should you wear and how should you wear it?

Here are a couple of things to consider:

Be Realistic

Shape wear can help you smooth things up and even tighten, it can help you look great in clothes that are your size and it can certainly help your self esteem.  But trying to use shape wear to help you go down a size is not realistic. Stick to your size in both the clothes you wear and the undergarments. Remember size doesn’t matter.  They are inconsistent at best.  No one needs to know that number, try to use it as a guide and not something to beat yourself up about.

Understand your Goals

There is a comfort vs. results continuum that you need to consider.  Where are you on the spectrum from let it all hang out to yikes I can barely breath?  Many pieces will come with a performance level from light control, to medium or firm.  Obviously the firmer the control the better the results and double up for a special event.  This seems unbearable to me but the thicker the fabric the more the control so it works from an aesthetics standpoint.  If the garment doesn’t have a performance level just check out the fabric, the more the nylon the more shape control.

What effect are you after?

  • Most women like a smooth line through the torso, think, high waisted for this result.  If you have trouble with slippage there are options that go over the shoulders or hook onto your bra.
  • Another idea to consider is pantyhose or tights built into the shape.  This can help with the uncomfortable confining feeling of shape wear overlapping the the tights or hose.
  • Some women like shape wear that helps minimize a larger chest.  Keep in mind it actually flatters you and changes the shape of your girls.  I prefer the bodysuit that is cut around the bust for this reason.
  • Big booties are on trend so if you want a fuller one, you may want to consider the Bootie Lifter or Bootie Bra as Spanx refers to it.

Don’t Forget Hose and Tights

This is an important topic; I get asked this question all the time, “aren’t pantyhose DATED”.  The answer is NO.  If you are trendy there indeed was a trend for while that allowed women to avoid stockings.  But now even that trend is passed.  All it took was Kate Middleton to start wearing this classic look and now they are back.  Honestly, I think they are a polished look and make every woman’s legs look better.  But as with everything else, whether you should you shouldn’t wear hose comes back to your personal brand, age and the occasion for which you are dressing.

 

Here are a few things to consider:

If you don’t feel comfortable with bare legs, or you feel your legs are too pale to go bare, but you don’t like the look of pantyhose you might want to wear a sheer nude.  They have some called barely there that are indeed hard to notice.  Always be sure the nude you choose it the best match for your skin color.  Nude on everyone is different and indeed they come in many shades.

If you’re super casual – sporty natural, and the thought of pantyhose makes you want to gag, go without or consider tights.

If your style is edgy. You might want to wear textured tights, paired with high heels, or stiletto boots.

If you more on the feminine romantic side, colorful tights or patterned hoses might be perfect for you.

The question of open toed shoes with pantyhose stays the same in my mind.  Don’t do it.  It may negatively impact your image and leave you looking dated or tacky.  The trend is to wear colored tights with open toed shoes.  If you are trendy or edgy and you do this with intention than go for it.

Hose and tights can make or break an outfit.  I don’t just think of them as undergarments but necessary accessories.

 

 

 

First Lady Fashion

On Presidents’ Day let’s take a look at First Ladies and their sense of style.  If anyone needs a personal brand and an individual style, it’s the First Lady.  Unfortunately, the commentary is often on what they are wearing instead of who they are or what cause they stand behind.  Most are very inspiring, intelligent women with a drive and ambition all their own which is reflected in the clothing they wear.   

 

When I work with my clients, one of our first tasks is to nail five or fewer adjectives that describe who they are.  Now, I have never had the pleasure of working with a FLOTUS, but if I had, this is what I would say: 

 

 

 

 

Michelle Obama

 

Her style says she is elegant, modern, confident, feminine and adventurous.  

 

She wears beautiful, classic dresses, that were also sleek, modern and feminine.  Lots of fit and flare styles.  She changed her hairstyle, I want to guess, ten times during her eight year reign… AND she single-handedly changed the taboo about women of a certain age going sleeveless.  I love her and her style!

 

Jackie Kennedy Onasis

 

Jackie O and Michelle Obama have similar styles but Jackie set a timeless precedent.  She was classic, elegant, and refined.  Once a photographer for the Washington Times-Herald before marrying Congressman John F. Kennedy and an editor later in life, as a First Lady, she was known for her emphasis on arts and culture.  She was admired for elegance and became an icon; she was also generous and family oriented.  Do you relate to this style?

 

Barbara Bush

 

Wow, she was a beauty.  I used to only think of her as the older stately matriarch of a powerful political family.  But now, as I analyze her style, it was both feminine, romantic.  I understand her personality was strong, powerful, and at times, funny.  Although, in her older years, if I were her image consultant, I would have suggested some changes to her wardrobe (about making choices that did not age her so much!)

 

Laura Bush

 

My take: warm, charming, approachable.  Known as a loyal wife and mother and an advocate for literacy and health.  Her style was classic and conservative. 

 

Betty Ford

 

She was a gymnast in her youth and clearly falls into the sporty, natural style classification.  She was outspoken, active, and an advocate for the women’s movement.  She was an independent thinker and fought for equal rights, abortion, gun control and drug legislation.  Her style garnered the respect she deserved. 

 

Hillary Clinton

 

Hilary has definitely undergone a style evolution: we grew up with her and saw her as elegant and strong… but sometimes a bit frumpy.  Her style has re-popularized the pant suit, and during her run for president, she mostly chose monochromatic pantsuits that elongated her figured and made her look polished instead of outdated.  Whether you love her or hate her she has been a woman with a brand and a force to be reckoned with most of her life.  I personally admire her strength and tenacity.

 

What about you?  If we could easily Google your name and see a catalog of images, what would they say about who you are as a person?  If you are interested in creating a personal style check out my free quiz on my homepage: https://www.cyndyporter.com/.  In fewer than 5 minutes you can get a sense of your style, and what avatar I associate with that style, and some ideas on how to dress to express who you are.  Have fun with it!  How you dress is your most powerful communication tool.  It is all about self expression and showing up with confidence.

Red Alert

 

Bill Blass once said: “WHEN IN DOUBT WEAR RED.”

 

And on Valentine’s Day we indeed see it everywhere.  But is it right for you?

 

YES.  Of course it is but not all red is for everyone…

 

When I do a color analysis for my clients I make sure they all get their best neutrals, both light colors and dark colors.  They know which metals are right for their skin tone. They know their “wow” colors and they know what RED is the right red for them.

 

 

Every woman can wear red but the spectrum is significant.

 

 

 

We have to start with your skin tone.  Are you warm or are you cool?

 

If you have warm skin are warm red is best for you.  If you are cool cool complected then it’s a cool red.  If you mix this up, I’m afraid to say it can suck the life out of you.  Yikes!  So how do you know? Take a look at the color wheel:

 

 

Do the colors on top look best on you or the colors on the bottom?

 

If you aren’t sure start by determining if you are warm or cool.  See the four models below.  Can you see how cool colors would look best on these two women and warm colors on the next two?

 

 

Cool

 
If you are cool you have pink or blue undertones. In general the colors in the lower half of the color wheel are best for you.  

 

Red is shown on the warm half of the color wheel.  By mixing red with pink, purple or blue you end up with a cooler shade of red. 

 

Once you know your right red, it is also a helpful tip when thinking about your rouge and lipstick colors.

 

 

 

Warm

 

If you are warm you have yellow undertones. In general the colors in the upper half of the color wheel are best for you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Have fun with it!  Play around and experiment and let us know if red, fuchsia or burgundy is the right red for you.